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So say your best friend sings a solo in church for the first time. She’s really excited about it and is really proud of herself. Truth is, though; it was terrible. She asks you how she did. What do you say?

What do you think the Bible says we should do?

16 “You shall not give false testimony against your neighbor.

Exodus 20:16 (NIV)

9 Don’t lie to each other, for you have stripped off your old sinful nature and all its wicked deeds.

Colossians 3:9 (NLT)

So the Bible’s pretty straight up. Don’t lie.

What are some of the “white lies” that we tell on a regular basis?

What are some of the more substantial lies that we tell?

What are the differences between the “white lies” and the substantial ones? [There are none.]

10 “Whoever can be trusted with very little can also be trusted with much, and whoever is dishonest with very little will also be dishonest with much.

Luke 16:10 (NIV)

What does that verse say about the “white lies” we tell?

If we tell small (“white”) lies, we will tell larger, more substantial ones as well.

What are the reasons why we usually tell lies to begin with? [Mostly because we’re lazy and it’s easier.]

Are those good reasons? What can we do to stop?

So, after looking into it, what should we tell our best friend (the terrible singer)?

What would happen if we took the easy path and just told her she was really good? [She would keep embarrassing herself in the future.]

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2 Responses to Honesty

  1. Sean P. says:

    You may want to add something in here about speaking in love. It’s one thing to tell the best friend that she did not do well, and another thing to tell her that she completely sucked. We still want to edify and uplift through telling the truth, not drag down and be a stumbling block. We need to be truthful and honest in our words, but we need to have a harsh tongue by doing so. Ephesians 4:29 comes to mind as I write this (which may be slightly out of context, I don’t think it is, though). We want not only to build the person up who we are speaking to but everyone within earshot. If my aggressive truth-telling degrades everyone who hears me, I am causing more trouble than doing good. Honesty should be approached with love. I understand there are exceptions to this, but in this case, honesty with love should be emphasized.
    Otherwise, I liked it.

  2. Jason Carr says:

    Awesome, Sean…very good point, and yeah definitely feels like the lesson needs that now that I think about it. Thanks so much…this is exactly why I’m asking for feedback. :)

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